09.07.2013

  • The Man's Role

     

    The Man’s Role in the Home
    Ephesians 5:21-6:4

    Author: Rogr Pepin
    Source: Christian-Home-Business-Help

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    What the Bible says in Ephesians 5:21 - 6:4 is not very popular today but this is what God expects a family to be.

    The man is the key to making the family work the way God intended. God puts the responsibility of having a Biblical family on the man. The feminist movement (with the help of TV) portray fathers as fools. They also try and say there is no difference between a man and a woman. If you can’t see the difference, I am sorry, I can’t help you. Just observe their behavior.
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    On top of that, men are under a lot of job pressure because of the failing economy which makes it harder to provide for the family. Many men never had a role model in their home. We need Godly men helping other men become whom they ought to be for the glory of God.

    First men, love your family. Verse 25 says, Husbands love your wives. Verse 28 says, “So ought men to love their wives as their own bodies.” Verse 33 says, “Nevertheless, let every one of you in particular so love his wife, even as himself.” Then in verse 25 he says, “Husbands love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church.”
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    Men, love your family like Jesus loved the church. So how did Jesus love the church? It is selfless and sacrificial love. He gave his life on the cross of Calvary. That's how much a man is supposed to love his family. The end of verse 28 says man is to love the members of his family as he loves his own body. He is to nourish it. He is to cherish it. He is to take care of it. That's the way God wants a man to love his family.

    Men, lead your family. You are the spiritual leader of your family if you are saved. You have to understand the Bible principle to be under the lordship of Jesus Christ, not only for your sake, but also for the sake of your family. That's why every man needs to be totally dedicated to Jesus Christ as Lord of his life. You can't lead your family to the lordship of Jesus Christ unless you are under His Lordship.
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    You must have a partnership. Eph. 5:21 says, Submitting yourselves one to another in the fear of God. Family is a partnership between husband and wife. Some men can lead major corporations yet can't run their own family. When you fathered a child, it did not end your role. God wants children to have a mother and also a father who is committed to the partnership of making that marriage work.

    Are you head of the house? Eph. 5:23 says, “For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church and the Savior of the body.” Notice that it didn't say the head over the wife; it said the head of the wife. It is not dictatorship. A man is not the dictator in the family. But the man is to protect and provide for his family. “But if any provide not for his own, and specially for those of his own house, he hath denied the faith, and is worse than an infidel,” 1Tim. 5:8.

    Being a good provider is not enough. You have a spiritual responsibility. Get your family in church each Sunday. Take every opportunity to help them learn about Jesus Christ and to grow in their relationship with Him.
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    Some of you are going to reap a bitter harvest one day because you are teaching your children that homework is more important than church. Or excelling in sports is more important than excelling in the things of God. You are missing the boat with those children. Some day they will show you how well they have learned the lessons you taught them. Get a backbone and make Godly decisions for your sons and daughters in your family.

    In verses 25-27, it says, "for husbands to love your own wife as Christ loved the church and gave himself for it that he might sanctify and cleanse it with the washing of the water by the word. That he might present it to himself a glorious church, not having spot, or wrinkle, or any such thing, but that it should be holy and without blemish."

    As Christ lifts the church, men lift your family. Find out how God has gifted your family members and encourage them to develop those gifts to the glory of God. Don’t choose a career for them. It is much better to let them become what God wants them to be. It is a good thing to help your children get an education. To help them become financially secure. But if all you give them is knowledge and wealth, you failed. Give them Jesus. Give them Godliness and teach them that the things of God are most important.

    Don’t think for a moment that you will always do it right. That is impossible. You are human. But if you are the man, the father, the kind of husband God wants you to be, and if you lift your family to be everything God wants them to be, one of these days you will reap a good harvest in your children.

    Make sure you obey the Word of the Lord. Ask the Lord to help you be the man you should be. Some of you have failed to lead your family like you should. Fix it today. Some of you wives need to pray for your man and support him, not hinder him.

    Children, pray for parents and ask God to forgive you for your rebellious attitude. Thank God that He has given you a good, Godly family. Some of you families need to pray, and get on God’s path and walk in His will for His glory.

    Roger Pepin
    Niagara Falls, Canada